The process of learning to communicate powerfully is a journey of self discovery. I know – because it’s the story of my life.
As the daughter of West African immigrants, a first generation kid — I watched my parents pull themselves up by their proverbial bootstraps – never complaining or drawing attention to their infinite sacrifices.
I was raised to work hard, to mind my manners, to be humble + above all – to be considerate of others.
I decided, as a young girl, that asking for help was a sign of weakness. Looking back, what I really believed was that to be seen, to make noise, to demand – was inconsiderate. Somehow, I grew to believe that it was better to be invisible. To keep quiet.
As the universe would have it (thank you universe), at 22, I landed a job as a mediator in NYC — designing mediation programs in schools + teaching peaceful communication principles to everyone from parents to prisoners.
For the first time, I embraced my natural ability to speak, educate + inspire.
That recognition nudged me forward — to law school, where I tip-toed away from courtroom drama + policy-making (turned out not to be my jam) and focused on mastering the art of persuasive communication + the art of helping women reclaim their confidence. (turned out to be my jam).
Since then, I’ve worked with over 3000 people in all walks of life on issues related to communication and visibility – entrepreneurs, corporate employees, families, community leaders and business owners.
My crucial epiphany:
Women have an extraordinary ability to compromise themselves – to confuse being passive with being patient, to remain silent instead of allowing their voices to be known + to fly under the radar, all while accepting less than they deserve.
a poemMy other crucial epiphany — sadly — was that I did it, too.
Becoming a mother for the first time compelled me to confront all of my childhood messages about communicating + being seen. Motherhood lay open all of my vulnerabilities, limitations, hopes, dreams, desires + fears. Motherhood brought me directly the center of who I wanted to be – and she is not a woman who is overrun and overwhelmed. She is not silent. She is at Peace.
I had to learn to recognize my needs + learn how to express them. I had to find the language to ask for help, to self promote, to set boundaries and to stand up for myself. I had to rock the boat + speak my mind — for my daughters’ sake, for my family’s sake and especially, for myself.
Despite all of my training + expertise — it wasn’t easy.
It’s taken me decades of study + self-discovery to learn what I know about powerful communication. I can help you get there much faster.
It is my mission that no woman falls short of her potential for success because her voice has been quieted.
That is my hope for you.
And it’s our responsibility as mothers, sisters, leaders + simply as women to EXPRESS ourselves — clearly, consistently + courageously.
That’s how businesses move forward. That’s how success happens. That’s how marriages stick together. That’s how communities strengthen + heal. That’s how peace is revealed.
If you’re ready to share your gifts, be fully seen and express yourself with precision, power + MOXIE — I’m ready to be your guide.
Join my online membership (launching February 2016). Invite me to speak at your workplace or to your tribe. Enjoy my Poem. Or just say hello.
I can’t wait to hear what YOU have to say.
I am a Voice Alchemist and Secret Weapon for Quieted Women.
I help women find the Courage to be Seen & Heard – powerfully, and without apology.
Training + Credentials
- BA in International Relations | Wellesley College
- JD | Columbia University
- University Ombuds(wo)man
- Former VP of a cutting edge Employee Dispute Resolution program at Prudential Financial
- Certified Mediator + Mediation trainer
- Certified Transformational Life Coach (CPCC)
- Certified Conflict Dynamics Trainer
- Certified Organizational Ombudsman Practitioner
- Board of Advisors, Scheinman Institute on Conflict Resolution | Cornell University
- Board of Directors, Mothers & More
- 20 years experience as a mediation, negotiation, conflict resolution + communication trainer
- Close to 3000 people trained and coached to be better communicators
- Uncanny Intuition + Gift of the Spoken Word | Born that Way